I was not an easy teenager.
Today, I am old enough to have a teenager on my own, and I made a promise in my heart when I was a teenager, that I would not to agree to what my mom said. Haaaaaa! Teenage years...!
Now life teaches me so many things, and I find out, all what my mom said - all of them are wisdom of life.
Hari ini Saya ingin mengingat dan menuliskan those wisdom of life one by one to celebrate how they have blessed me and have made me who I am today.
Here are what my Mom taught me:
6. Kalau mau dokter buat jadi kaya materi, mendingan ngga usah jadi dokter! Hehehe… ini kata-kata pertama yang my mom ucapkan waktu Saya insist buat masuk Fakultas Kedokteran waktu itu. Actually she did not support me with the decision.
My mom said that being a medical doctor will consume your life, because it’s a calling.
Saya tidak mengerti apa maksudnya waktu itu. Tetapi hari ini, melihat ke belakang, saya bersyukur she emphasized that strongly to me, sehingga sekarang… setelah menjadi seorang yang mengucapkan sumpah Hippocrates which means biarpun saya tidak praktek, tetapi selamanya saya terikat pada sumpah itu, and what my mother said, even in her own simple words – it's so alive now and becomes the strength for me to live out this calling. You’re just a simple woman Mom, but your wisdom is so true!
7. Hafal Firman Tuhan – terutama Mazmur dan Amsal. Itu akan menjadi pegangan dalam menjalani hidup. Nahhhh… ini yang paling saya sebel!
Berasa ngga berguna banget waktu itu, dan ngga ngerti juga apa maksudnya. Masa kecil saya penuh dengan cerita Kitab Suci dan sejak saya mulai bisa menghafal, saya diajarkan untuk mulai menghafal ayat Kitab Suci. My mom always said… “Baca Mazmur dan Amsal buat menemani perjalanan hidup kamu karena banyak kata-kata hikmat.”
and of course I didn’t believe her. Tetapi hari ini, saya bersyukur akan ayat-ayat yang saya hafalkan dan sudah saya lupakan hehehe… tetapi tanpa sadar, ayat-ayat itu menjadi kekuatan di saat saya terhimpit beban berat. Sebuah bekal dari ibu yang akan menjadi kekuatan sepanjang masa.
8. Sex itu suci! Jangan sembarangan melakukan nya. Jaga kekudusan. Hehehhe… I’ve been in relationship - likeeeee all my life!
From I’m 15 until 28, saya ngga pernah berhenti ada dalam relasi. Baik pacaran atau TTM. Anyway… My mom kept repeating this message but it seemed like I didn’t care about it. Yes… I made so many mistakes. Pacaran saya ngga bisa dibilang bener dan menjaga kekudusan tubuh saya. But now when I look back, I know that she was right. Setelah kehidupan pernikahan dan mengalami langsung apa arti sex, I understand now why sex is holy. Once again I have to say… yeaa Mom, you’re right!
9. Jangan minta kepada manusia, karena itu akan mengecewakan. Mintalah ke Tuhan. Dia yang akan memberikan semuanya. I don’t know whether this one is a toxic faith or not.
Because of this understanding I felt disappointed to God. Big time. But then I found out, that what made me mad was my wrong understanding about God. Dalam perjalanan waktu, ketika pengenalan akan Tuhan bertambah, saya mengerti apa artinya dan dalam konteks apa Dia (Tuhan) akan memberikan semuanya. Saat saya mengerti konteks yang sesungguhnya, kata-kata ini menjadi penguat iman dan harapan saya. My mom has gone through a lot of things in her life. I am the testimony of her life because I was born in this family (Thank God!). I can give a testimony on how she depends on God so much and how God fulfills her dreams one by one. Yes there were sad and unfavourable moments, but God always shows up in the end and make everything good. Thank you for not only teaching me this, but also showing me the meaning to be a woman of faith.
10. Ingat nanti kalau kamu jadi istri dan ibu, cuma 1 modalnya: DENGKUL! This one is my favorite. I don’t have a biological children until now, but these words become a great reminder.
Melihat hidup Saya sendiri, kurang apa sih saya dibesarkan oleh kedua orang tua saya?
Saya dibesarkan dengan pendidikan iman yang kuat. Tetapi tetap di masa remaja, di mana saya sudah mampu menentukan pilihan saya, orang tua saya tidak bisa memaksakan kehendaknya terhadap saya. Tetep aja Saya pacaran dan ngga menjaga diri Saya.
Gimana caranya kita bisa mengetahui dan percaya kepada suami kita? Gimana caranya kita bisa melindungi anak-anak kita 24 jam sehari? Hal inilah yang membuat banyak istri/ibu hidup dalam kekhawatiran – kecemasan – insecure berkepanjangan dan ngga tahu gimana cara mengendalikan semua yang diluar kendalinya. So my mom said…:”Cuma ada 1 modal di mana ibu (read: parents) bisa menjaga anak-anak dan suaminya: MODAL DENGKUL!!!” Artinya… get down on your knees and pray!
She is still with me now. She is 78 as I am writing this. She is getting weak in terms of her memory and she doesn’t talk much because she had lost many words in her memory.
Sometimes I feel sad looking at her, knowing that she was a preacher and was so passionate about God’s words.
I write all this as a testimony on how fruitful her life is.
Forever I will thank her for what she had taught me.
Yes I didn’t believe in what she said until years later - after so many things life had also taught me, I have to admit, every single word she said to me… They were all true.
Yeaa Mom… Let’s Party! Let’s celebrate how you live your life well and how God is so very faithful to you.
Thank you for what you guys (you and Papa) have taught me and how you both have supported me and have kept on loving me. You both see my ups and downs, my flaws, and how rebellious I was… I know I was not an easy daughter to deal with, but forever I Thank God because I was born of your love.
Selamat Hari Ibu
I love you Mama
I love you Papa
God be with us all.
PS: I only share 10 – tapi sebenernya masih banyak yang my mom said to me. Will write again later about it.
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